DEAR MISS MANNERS: I will be getting married later this year (assuming it’s safe to do so, given COVID). I have some relatives in my grandparents’ home country I would love to include. We rarely see each other, and there is a language barrier, but we have warm feelings and shared history.
However, they are rural farmers, and while they do well for the area, they are not wealthy by American standards. For perspective, while we’ve happily been able to send them small sums over the years as gifts, a single plane ticket would cost 10 times what we’ve ever given. So subsidizing their attendance isn’t possible.
I would love to somehow tell them that this is an occasion I wish they could take part in. Is there any version of, “You’d be welcome if it were possible, but I know it’s not, so please don’t feel any pressure. This is merely symbolic” that could be included with an invitation?
Miss Manners: Why don’t my guests give my beautiful house the respect it deserves?
Miss Manners: I’m nervous about telling her she’s not allowed in my house anymore
Miss Manners: These two women have sent our enviable friend group off the rails
Miss Manners: I told her I wouldn’t come if kids were there, and she turned cold
Miss Manners: The dog in the restaurant was bad enough. Then things got worse.
I don’t want to embarrass them by putting them in a position where they feel obligated to spend money they don’t have, nor do I want to hurt their pride by referring to their financial situation (even though there’s no shame in it at all).
They are not from a culture where receiving an invitation automatically necessitates a gift, so that is not a concern. I truly just wish they could be there, and want to tell them so without burdening them. Is there a convention for such a thing?
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