DEAR MISS MANNERS: For my 16th birthday, my grandmother had a very large amethyst made into a custom ring for me.
She was not a typical “sweet” grandmother, and this was the only birthday gift I received from her after entering high school. I adored that ring and wore it nearly every day.
A few years later, it went missing. I looked everywhere, but it was gone.
More time passed, and I visited my cousin for her wedding. She was wearing my ring on her finger! I have discovered that my grandmother stole it from my jewelry box a few years after she gave it to me, and then gifted it to my cousin.
I have been devastated about this for many years, and will be seeing my cousin soon. I would like to address this and have my ring returned to me, but not embarrass myself, my cousin or our mothers. How should I handle this?
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GENTLE READER: Carefully.
You would be accusing your grandmother of theft — and the rest of your family of aiding and abetting her. In addition, you would be taking something from your cousin that she no doubt values as much as you did, and to whose nefarious circumstances she was previously oblivious.
Miss Manners suggests that instead you approach the conversation with low expectations of getting the ring returned as you tell your cousin this “funny story” about Nana. If she knows your grandmother as well as you do, she will believe it is possible — especially if you do not immediately ask her to hand over the ring in question afterwards.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: On a frequent basis, I’m …
Source:: East Bay – Entertainment