Dear Abby: I’ve heard the rumors about what my husband is doing

DEAR ABBY: My husband of 43 years, an alcoholic, has started going to the grill/bar in our small town. He spends three to four hours there, six days a week. He would go more often if they were open on Sundays.

Jeanne Phillips

People who know us tell me things that have been going on between a single bartender and him. This bartender has given him gifts, and I heard he overtips her. I have also been told there’s more going on than the outward flirting, and my husband has been saying bad things about me.

The bartender is not a young woman, and she tells anyone who will listen that she’s looking for a man.

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I have asked my husband nicely to stop going there, and he does for a few days, until her calls and posts on Facebook start about me “keeping him from going to the bar.” When he gets home, he continues drinking until he passes out.

I have told him that if he gets a DUI and goes to jail, I won’t bail him out. He doesn’t really care, and I don’t know what to do. Help!


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DEAR DISASTER: Your signature is correct. Your marriage is a disaster.

As long as your husband continues to drink, nothing will improve. Keep uppermost in your mind that, as much as you might want to, you cannot change him.

Contact a divorce lawyer and find out what you need to do to protect yourself financially. And join an Al-Anon group. There may be more than one near you. When you do, you may find not only some much-needed emotional support

Source:: East Bay – Lifestyle


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