DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was visiting a large city, staying at an inn where guests all gathered for breakfast. Each morning, someone invariably yelled across the room to me, “Where are you from?” followed by more questions, such as “Why are you here?” And then, “Let me tell you about this city.”
I am shy and introverted in the morning, and felt very uncomfortable announcing my life story to the breakfast room. Finally, I pretended I didn’t hear and looked out the window. What to say?
Miss Manners: We’re adults who like to dress alike. Why does that bug people?
Miss Manners: They say ‘wow!’ about my new house. Should I say, ‘I know!’?
Miss Manners: He takes my artful meals and makes them disgusting
Miss Manners: ‘Hey, neighbor, just ignore the noise from our house’
Miss Manners: It’s not his fault he’s poor, but he got upset when I tried to pay
GENTLE READER: Yours is the polite and practical solution: polite because venues with common tables expect the guests to introduce themselves and to mingle, and practical because cowering in one’s room over a boiled egg is not much fun.
Miss Manners does not suggest there is ever an excuse for yelling at someone over breakfast, unless, perhaps, the person who is being addressed is hard of hearing, which is what you are pretending to be. If necessary, you can pretend not to understand and reply that it is, indeed, a lovely day.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: When new acquaintances invite us to their homes for a visit, is there a kind way of asking in advance whether they have large, muscular, needy or excitable dogs — and if so, can they be excluded from the visit, at the very least until we have had the opportunity to “get to know” their pets?
Clearly, most dog owners are completely comfortable having their pets indoors, as are many of their guests. However, those of us who do not own dogs are usually not quite so …
Source:: East Bay – Lifestyle