Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune)
DEAR AMY: My supervisor, “Angie,” works hard at her job. She provides me with much valuable support and guidance.
She is also the mother of a toddler, and as such she has negotiated to work 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. Monday through Thursday; she takes care of her child on Fridays.
A few times a year, we have multiday team retreats, and Angie is never able to attend on Fridays. She rarely attends meetings or events in the evenings or on weekends, which happen at least a few times a month.
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More important, Angie has been on our team for over a year, and has yet to complete 40 hours of mandatory training, because she has not been able to make any of the sessions work with her parenting responsibilities.
Now it’s annual review time and I have the chance to give feedback on Angie’s performance. (We have a practice where feedback happens in both directions, not just from supervisor to staffer.) I would like to raise my concerns, which are that A: It’s hard for me to feel that she is fully invested in our work if there are certain events and all-staff time that she never attends, and B: Her lack of certification through the mandatory training technically puts our entire organization at risk, should anyone choose to look into it.
I would never want anyone to prioritize their job over their family, although I don’t think that’s what I’m asking for. And, I certainly don’t want to be a woman putting down another woman for her personal and professional choices.
Am I out of line, or could I make these …
Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle