My son was 10 weeks old when Donald Trump was elected the 45th president of the United States.
Over the course of those previous 10 weeks, I’d probably slept a cumulative, oh, I don’t know, seven minutes? Between my newborn’s acid reflux, the nuclear holocaust that used to be my perineum, and what seemed like the totally rational and not-at-all diagnosable fear that my baby would die in his sleep if I didn’t watch him breathe at all times, the outcome of another country’s presidential election was pretty low on my list of concerns.
Plus, in my hallucinatory state of exhaustion, I’d convinced myself that surely someone with absolute power (The Queen? The United Nations? Oprah?) would step in and put an end to the charade before America did something stupid like elect a man accused of multiple counts of sexual assault and harassment to lead their country.
So I didn’t stress about it. We do not live in a world, I told myself even as the results started rolling in Nov. 8, where a man who boasted about grabbing women by the pussy could become the next president of the United States. But when the sun came up the next morning after another sleepless night, that was the world I found myself living in.
That was the world in which I’d be raising my son.
Just like that, my parental duties exploded from “make sure the baby survives infancy” to “make sure the baby survives infancy and grows up to be a respectful, thoughtful man who not only isn’t part of the problem, but is part of the solution toward dismantling rape culture.”
I like to think I don’t raise my son within a gender stereotype. But does he actually love bears, airplanes, and knocking things over, or is that just what I’ve exposed him to?
Then, as my son learned to crawl, talk, and walk over the past 15 months, more than 20 high-profile men (including Hollywood director Harvey Weinstein, comedian Louis C.K., and actor Kevin Spacey) have been named in sexual assault and misconduct scandals. The #MeToo social media campaign that became a rallying cry for women (and men) who experienced sexual assault and harassment once again revealed the magnitude of the problem.
And our need for male allies has never been greater. But how do you raise …
Source:: The Huffington Post – Canada Travel