How To Be A Better You

I can certainly be a knob. A recent example is the following exchange when going through domestic airport security:

Aviation Security Officer: “Do you have a laptop in your bag sir? “

Me: “No, only a Surface Pro”

Aviation Security Officer: “You’ll have to take that out sir”

Me: “But it’s a tablet and one of the reasons I purchased this was so that I won’t have to take it out of my bag when going through airport security. This is the only airport in the country that asks me to take it out of my bag”

Aviation Security Officer: “I’m sorry sir, but this is an airport committed to security and I need you to take it out of your bag”

Me: “Are you suggesting that other airports aren’t concerned about security?” (As I grudgingly take it out of my bag for the scan).

Almost immediately after this exchange I felt embarrassed by my behaviour. They had simply tried to follow their procedure for scanning electronics. I had responded like removing a tablet from my bag was a major hardship and affront to my dignity!

I have noticed that I often show up as a less desirable version of myself when traveling. I have come to think of this character as Frustrated Paul. Frustrated Paul gets unhelpfully annoyed and frustrated at the slightest provocation and then proceeds to act entitled, special, judgemental, and petty.

Frustrated Paul is just one of the many versions of the person I am and can be. In fact, we are often different versions of ourselves at different times of day, in different situations, and with different people. There are certainly many ways in which I am different when at the airport, at work, and at home.

These different versions of ourselves generally develop when learning to navigate the terrain of our childhoods and adolescences. The behaviours that define these various characters become habits because they assisted us in some way in the past. Yet most no longer serve us as well as they once did.

Fortunately, we can choose to rewrite the script for these characters and show up as better versions of ourselves. This is quite a liberating idea, that we can choose to be someone other than who we feel we are or become at our worst.

While we are all different in our own way, psychology recognises several common default characters that often emerge when people are at a

Source:: The Huffington Post – UK Lifestyle

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