Disagreements about the number of children to have is one of the most difficult topics for a couple.
This is true even if you have already made the decision to bring children into your relationship, because it’s an emotional decision that can affect everything from how other children will react to financial choices.
It’s an emotional decision that can affect everything from how other children will react to financial choices.
Those emotions can make it tough to talk about family expansion — but talking about it is incredibly important, no matter where you end up on the question of whether or not to have another child.
With that in mind, here are eight tips on bringing up the desire for another child with your spouse. We hope they help you navigate what can be a tough conversation with understanding and acceptance.
1. Be patient
“Adopting a patient attitude is a critical preliminary step that needs to be taken to prepare you for the different paths the conversation can take,” says Weena Cullins, a licensed marriage and family therapist. If you’re considering bringing this up with your partner, it’s fair to assume you’ve been thinking about it for a while, so you’ve had a head start on considering all the ways that this could change your lives. But for your partner, it could be the first time they’ve seriously thought about what another child could mean, Cullins points out.
“Verbalize that you understand that your partner may need time to think about the idea thoroughly and really mean it,” she says. “Give them the space they require to process their thoughts and feelings before assigning too much weight to their initial reaction.”
2. Think about the medical reality
If one of you plans to become pregnant in order to have another child, you may have some decisions to make about reproductive medical interventions — even if you were able to conceive without them in the past. Statistics Canada indicates that about one in six parents experience secondary infertility, where they find they are unable to conceive without assistance after a year of trying, regardless of an earlier pregnancy.
Talk to your partner about what you would do in such a circumstance: which reproductive interventions are you comfortable with, how soon would you want to investigate them if pregnancy doesn’t happen, how would you pay for such treatment, and how long would you be willing to try to conceive if …
Source:: The Huffington Post – Canada Travel