Ask Amy: Family is shunning me after I shared that I’d had an abortion

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune)

DEAR AMY: Recently on Facebook, I shared my story from a former relationship, involving how poorly I was treated and how his sexual assault resulted in me getting pregnant and — after weighing all of my options — choosing to have an abortion. I finally felt strong enough to tell this story without being ashamed.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune)

Well, my (future) sister-in-law saw this post, and chose to tell her parents.

Now my future mother-in-law has either been told or has misunderstood this as me getting pregnant and having an abortion with my fiance (her son), even though all of this happened before I even met him!

She is acting very rudely toward both of us, and refuses to speak to him when he asks what is wrong.

Naturally, I am upset with my future SIL and do not want to be near her or her mother.

Related Articles

Ask Amy: Can I do anything about my husband’s iPhone addiction?

Ask Amy: My nephews grab all the food at family meals and everyone else goes hungry

Ask Amy: Do I accept co-worker’s offer of ‘friend with benefits’? And do I tell my wife?

Ask Amy: Teen’s sleepover would have six girls and one who used to be a girl

Ask Amy: He’s chasing the princess who dumped him, and I’m left in the dust

This betrayal of trust has hurt and angered me, and these gossipy people are spreading this venom through the family instead of asking either me or my fiance about it.

How do I make it stop?

I feel I can never trust SIL again, and have restricted her view of anything I post on Facebook.

I also feel betrayed that they are all talking ABOUT us, rather than coming to us to ask questions. It hurts, and this has definitely damaged what little relationship I had with them in the first place.

Any advice?

Going Crazy

DEAR GOING CRAZY: First of all, I applaud your choice to tell your story. Given abortion’s place in our current cultural conversation, telling the truth about your own choice is laudable. (I also completely understand why women also exercise their right to keep their legal choice for abortion private.)

Unfortunately, despite what you say, you don’t seem fully ready to own your decision to disclose your assault and abortion.

And so, here’s a word about social media: When you post something on Facebook, you are taking your news public, regardless of your intention.

Surely you have heard the admonition that you shouldn’t post

Source:: East Bay – Lifestyle

(Visited 9 times, 1 visits today)

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *