How To Give A Massage That Will Have Your Partner Begging For More

Sometimes, getting a nice, long massage from your partner can feel better than sex. Luckily, you can have both. Giving your partner a massage (yes, it’s important to give as well as receive) is not only an act of love and kindness, but it’s the ultimate foreplay. By using touch, lighting candles, and anointing your partner with oil, a massage is as erotic as it gets.

Whether or not you plan on incorporating a happy ending or oiled-up sex into your rub down, the intimacy benefits of learning how to give a proper massage are boundless. To start, if you’re interested in the kinky elements of massage, the client/masseuse relationship is a really fun scenario for role-playing.

Of course, tapping into your inner masseuse isn’t always easy. So we spoke to a few professional massage therapists to round up the best tips on giving someone a relaxing, intimate, erotic massage that will leave them wanting (or even begging) for more.

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Set the mood.

The atmosphere is everything. “Choose a quiet room, light a scented candle, play some relaxing music, and get comfortable,” says Rachel Beider, licensed massage therapist, certified aromatherapist, and the owner of Massage Williamsburg and Massage Greenpoint. Go with a classic spa vibe and play ambient music, try our sleep playlist to get your partner into deep relaxation mode, or replay a Valentine’s Day playlist for extra romance.

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Chill on the thumbs.

When you want to splurge on a massage at the spa, you go for the 60- or 90-minute option. But massaging your partner for that long can seem like a miserable experience for your poor, little thumbs. Luckily, there’s a trick to this: If you want more endurance, don’t rely on your thumbs and hands to do 100% of the work — put your whole body into it in order to make the whole thing easier.

“People tend to use their thumbs too much and have to quit before the first few minutes,” says John O’Mahoney, massage therapist. “Try not to spend too much time squeezing and pushing with your fingers. Use your bodyweight to exert pressure through your hands.”

That said, even if you master this technique, you definitely don’t have to commit to massaging your partner for an entire hour.

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Purchase your supplies.

Becoming an expert at-home masseuse requires a little shopping. You don’t need to dole out a ton of money for an entire massage table, but you’ll need some go-to relaxation tools. Soft towels and pillows can turn your bed into a massage table, and candles can help create a relaxing ambiance. Pro-tip: Buy fresh cut roses (or flowers of your choice) to set a truly romantic vibe.

You’ll also need lotion or massage oil, which

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